When I saw the picture of Christina-Taylor Green, that little 9-year-old angel, I broke down and cried. It was a time for tears, for grieving, not for name-calling and finger-pointing.
Sometimes, people react strangely to grief. When my clients die, I counsel their relatives to forgive everything anybody says because they can say inappropriate, hurtful things. “You killed Dad because you didn’t visit him in the nursing home.” “You can have another child/get remarried.”
Let it pass. It’s the grief talking; it’s feeling instead of thinking. So, in the case of this atrocity near Tucson, people have blurted out irrational, inappropriate things. They blame Sarah Palin or the “tea party” or talk radio or Arizona and Arizonans, or supposedly inadequate gun laws.
